He looked at me with wonder in his eyes and said, “That was the most erotic experience of my life”.

Many men say these words after receiving Tantric bodywork from me. The exact same words each time.

What’s interesting is that I am not doing anything sexy in an obvious way. The...

Time and time again I hear from men that they are a “giver”. It gives him pleasure to give pleasure to a woman during intimate and erotic encounters.

Our culture rewards the concept of giving. How generous. How considerate. What a good person you must be when you give.

And yet…...

I dream of a world with temples. Not the "Waft a bit of incense around at a s*x party" kind of temple. But places of reverence and devotion to the Sacred.

I dream of a world where men are initiated into the Mysteries of existence through the portal of the body.

I dream of a world where this...

When the standard portrayal of sex is hot, horny and fast, why would you want to cultivate erotic experience that is warm, tender and slow?

Rushing into intensity can be a way of avoiding all the niggles, fears and uncertainties going on underneath the surface of experience. Making a lot of...

Eros is the energy of existence. Expressing itself as aliveness.

Ero emerges through every aspect of life. Whether we are consciously aware of it or not.

It is the fire of desire.
It is the current flowing.
It is the ground that roots.
It is the inspiration that gives you wings.

Yet how do we...

You are invited to an innovative new paradigm-shifting retreat this Summer - Emergent Eros (14th to 18th August @ Osho Leela).

A rare in-person group event with me! Visioned and curated in collaboration with my beloved friend and colleague Catherine Hale.

We are taking what is best in a festival...

If you’ve been following my work for a while, you will know that I’ve been cultivating the practice of writing.

Last year – when I moved home and became a solo householder again – writing output withered and waned. Faced with the newness of space and place and busyness of...

The ability to truly hear another - with curiosity about their experience and without taking it personally - is a wonderful capacity to cultivate.

Do you provide a safe harbour for them to gently dock the boats of emotion? Or do you cast them into raging seas of reactivity?

All too often when we...

It’s kind of curious that we humans are often more motivated by pain than pleasure.

I’m not talking about the kinky and consensual kind of pain. I simply mean that we seemed to be spurred to move away from what we don’t want rather than move towards what we do want. The stick of...

As you look out into the world right now, you may be wondering where humanity is heading.

Complex emotions may be arising – grief, despair, rage and bewilderment. Or perhaps it all feels just too much, and numbness blankets the overwhelm.

When so many are suffering, is it okay to feel joy?
...

Can you feel it? The Sacred Pause in the turn of the wheel of the year?

At Solstice time in the Northern Hemisphere, we experience the shortest day and longest night. We enter a portal of potential. A space to compost what has come before. A space to dream into the future yet to be.

So often at...

Men – it’s not your fault.

• No-one gave you a proper education in sex, pleasure and intimacy.
• No-one offered you a loving and honouring sexual initiation.
• No-one showed you how to show up as a man. In life or in sex.
• And very few seem to celebrate potency of men and masculinity.

In...